A Painful Confession

Most of my books have received excellent reviews. Several have a perfect 5-star review score on Amazon. I know that some or all of my books will also receive less than glowing reviews, and indeed that has happened to some of them.

I’ve learned, however, that the timing of a less-than-stellar review can have a hugely negative impact on a recently launched book if it is the first review for that title or in the absence of other strongly positive reviews.

That happened a while back to a title I released. Someone I considered a friend left a review that I believe in the absence or near-absence of any other positive reviews for the new book at the time pretty much killed any sales momentum for that book. She left a similar review for multiple titles, but because the other titles already had positive reviews her comments didn’t crush sales for the other titles.

I felt I’d been kicked in the gut by a friend. I knew she didn’t kill sales of the book on purpose, and I believed she was even perhaps trying to help me by providing feedback. Her reviews for each of the books included a comment something to the effect that she’d lowered the rating because the books lacked a Table of Contents or Index. I was stunned that the lack of either would cause a reader to lower the rating of the book by two stars out of five. Deep down inside I knew it would have been better for each of those anthologies to have had a Table of Contents, but I felt the punishment was far greater than the crime, and that what was done was done and couldn’t be undone.

I felt hurt, and my pride, ego, and stubborness, fueled my pain, anger, and disappointment.  It felt so unfair to me. I let the feelings fester.

This morning the feelings resurfaced for perhaps the hundredth time, but it occurred to me that it actually wouldn’t be all that hard or prohibitively expensive to add a Table of Contents to each of the books, and I committed to myself to do so. All of a sudden, my negative feelings changed to gratitude for her feedback and her intent. I know it may be too late to save the one title, but at least future readers of all the titles will have a Table of Contents to find favorite stories, poems,  writers, and poets.

This morning I was once again reminded as to the corrosive power of ego, pride, and stubbornness, on relationships and results.

I apologize to the person who mentioned the lack of a Table of Contents or Index in her reviews. I believe you were well-intentioned. I’m sorry for not being wise enough at the time to appreciate and be grateful for your gift. Thank you.

I plan to reach out to her today and attempt to apologize privately.

With Love,

Russ

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Interstellar Invitation

After about a three-month break I’ve begun writing again. The seed for my latest story was a dream I remembered from a night or two ago. It involves an invitation from interstellar strangers that will profoundly effect the lives of everyone who accepts it.

You can find it and many other stories I’ve written at my site for fictional tales “Imaginings of a Grateful Man” at http://imaginingsofagratefulman.com

With Love,

Russ

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Imperfect

This post brightened my day and I wanted to share such love and beauty with you.

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Dear Universe

May all of Mimi’s wishes come true through the actions of people of goodwill everywhere. Thank you, Mimi, for your powerful prayer.

Russ

mimijk's avatarWaiting for the Karma Truck

I’d write this to Santa, but being way over the age of majority and Jewish, it would seem remarkably disingenuous to do so.  Instead, I’m sending this to the universe, because based on my calculations, it’s large enough to handle a few requests from me.

Hi Universe,

How’s it going where you are?  Hopefully well, and you’re approaching the holidays with both anticipation and delight.  I hope you get all that you ask for and realize that you already have all that you want.  I’m not a big one for lists – I’ve been blessed too many times over to look at a gifted life and seek more.

And yet.

There are some things I desperately want this year.  You see, we’ll be welcoming our first grandchild into the world in February, and while I spend a ridiculous amount of time wondering what our relationship will be like, I’m spending…

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“Clyde and Friends” is the Highest-Rated Children’s App on ITB!

I recently discovered that the children’s app featuring my “Clyde and Friends” characters is the highest rated of about 150 children’s app on Interactive Touch Books site. That was a pleasant surprise, and I’m delighted that it is entertaining children and their parents.

http://store.interactivetouchbooks.com/books/gail+nelson/clyde+and+friends

With Love,

Russ

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“Ki-Gra’s REALLY, REALLY Big Day!” has been Released on Amazon in time for the Holidays!

With Love,

Russ

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Hello Again

It has been nearly a month since my last post. Much has happened during that time. I plan to update you all when I come up for air. It may be another two to four weeks before I get back to regularly posting again.

In the meantime, a dear friend has someone in his life who is going through very dark times. My friend is struggling with how to be there for the person. Below is my feedback to him. I post it in the hope that it may help others in a similar situation.

With Love,

Russ

Just being with someone in pain (whether emotional or physical) can be hugely comforting to them. I often just sit with them, taking my cues from what they let me know they need.

Some just want to sit in silence. Words can get in the way, and silence can be eloquent.

Sometimes they need to vent, to spew anger, bleed pain, or speak their fears to someone who will listen and stay in their fire with them.
I’ve found that most who want or need feedback let me know by asking questions. In those cases, what usually works best for me is to speak my truth from a loving place. It helps me to stay focused on the hope that everyone involved in the situation ultimately experiences lasting happiness.
Some need to be touched, whether a hug, an arm over the shoulder, or to be literally held up when they can no longer stand on their own. I tend to go with my gut on this and adjust as the situation warrants.
Your time and caring are great gifts you are giving.  May they help him to ultimately experience lasting joy.
Russ
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A Question & Free Book Offer Regarding Showing Book Photos and Links in the Blog Page

Hi, everyone. I just released my twelfth book, and the next one should be coming out in a couple of weeks or so. I know how to embed the link for the Amazon listing and photo of each book in a regular post, but they get buried out of sight as soon as I post something else. I’m seeing a growing number of bloggers who have found a way to have their books or those of others show up  in the right column (I believe as image widgets) so they are always visible regardless of which post is being read. I would love to have someone help me to make that happen for my blog. I’ve tried a whole bunch of things and even got possible/probable directions from another blogger, but haven’t been able to make them work after many tries. The error is likely mine rather than an error in the directions.

Is there someone who is willing and able to help me get my books listed on my blogs in my primary widget section so they are always visible? I will be happy to send a free signed copy of one of my books (of their choice) to the person who helps me to actually get my books listed in this way on my sites.

My email address is russtowne@yahoo.com. My phone number is 408-364-6987. As for time zones, I’m in California and am typically reachable from about 9am until sometime between 5 and 10pm weekdays, and weekends often from 10am to 5pm.

Thank you in advance for any help that you may be able to provide!

With love,

Russ

 

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“Slices of Life” has Been Released!

I’m pleased to announce that Slices of Life has been released and is available on Amazon.com!

Slices of Life is an anthology of the selected non-fiction stories. From heart-warming memories of childhood, to humorous perspectives on aging and inspiring stories of survival to hilariously disastrous social encounters, this non-fiction anthology has it all! It features thirty-plus stories exploring the challenges, triumphs, and humor of life as seen through the eyes and experienced in the hearts of more than a dozen writers.

Please spread the word that this long-awaited book is now available.

Thank you to everyone who helped to turn this dream into a reality.

With Love,

Russ

 

 

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Bubbles, Bubbles, Everywhere!

https://www.youtube-nocookie.com/embed/KMrvR836TFI?rel=0

If you like bubbles, you’ll love this.

With Love,

Russ

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