Big Sur Beach Beauty

During our last trip to the area in November, my Beloved bought this mounted photo of the splendor and majesty of a beach near Big Sur. Greg Magee is the photographer. If I understand the story correctly, the sun only shines through the natural tunnel like that once per year, on the Equinox. I love the golden glow and radiance as the photographer captured the sun as it exploded in the wave at precisely the right moment.

Sadly, my photo of the photo washes out much of the vibrancy of the colors, but it gives you at least a little hint of the beauty of what my Beloved gave to me and that is hanging in front of me over my desk. It inspires me, and I feel a great connection and spirituality when I experience it.

With Love,
RussBig Sur beach photo

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Keeping Your Word

At a Touchdown Club meeting many years before his death, Coach Paul “Bear” Bryant told the following story:

“I had just been named the new head coach at Alabama and was off in my old car down in South Alabama recruiting a prospect who was supposed to have been a pretty good player and I was havin’ trouble finding the place. Getting hungry I spied an old cinder block building with a small sign out front that simply said “Restaurant.”

“I pull up, go in and every head in the place turns to stare at me. Seems I’m the only white fella in the place. But the food smelled good so I skip a table and go up to a cement bar and sit. A big ole man in a tee shirt and cap comes over and says, “What do you need?” I told him I needed lunch and what did they have today? He says, “You probably won’t like it here, today we’re having chitlins, collared greens and black eyed peas with cornbread. I’ll bet you don’t even know what chitlins are, do you?” I looked him square in the eye and said, “I’m from Arkansas, I’ve probably eaten a mile of them. Sounds like I’m in the right place.” They all smiled as he left to serve me up a big plate. When he comes back he says, “You ain’t from around here then?”

“I explain I’m the new football coach up in Tuscaloosa at the University and I’m here to find whatever that boy’s name was and he says, yeah I’ve heard of him, he’s supposed to be pretty good. And he gives me directions to the school so I can meet him and his coach. As I’m paying up to leave, I remember my manners and leave a tip, not too big to be flashy, but a good one and he told me lunch was on him, but I told him for a lunch that good, I felt I should pay.
The big man asked me if I had a photograph or something he could hang up to show I’d been there. I was so new that I didn’t have any yet. It really wasn’t that big a thing back then to be asked for, but I took a napkin and wrote his name and address on it and told him I’d get him one and shook his hand and left.”

“I met the kid I was lookin’ for later that afternoon and I don’t remember his name, but do remember I didn’t think much of him when I met him. I had wasted a day, or so I thought. When I got back to Tuscaloosa late that night, I took that napkin from my shirt pocket and put it under my keys so I wouldn’t forget it. Back then I was excited that anybody would want a picture of me. The next day we found a picture and I wrote on it, “Thanks for the best lunch I’ve ever had.”

“Now let’s go a whole buncha years down the road. Now we have black players at Alabama and I’m back down in that part of the country scouting an offensive lineman we sure needed. Y’all remember, (and I forget the name, but it’s not important to the story), well anyway, he’s got two friends going to Auburn and he tells me he’s got his heart set on Auburn too, so I leave empty handed and go on see some others while I’m down there.”

“Two days later, I’m in my office in Tuscaloosa and the phone rings and it’s this kid who just turned me down, and he says, “Coach, do you still want me at Alabama?” And I said, “Yes I sure do.” And he says OK, he’ll come. And I say, “Well son, what changed your mind?” And he said, “When my grandpa found out that I had a chance to play for you and said no, he pitched a fit and told me I wasn’t going nowhere but Alabama, and wasn’t playing for nobody but you. He thinks a lot of you and has ever since y’all met.” Well, I didn’t know his granddad from Adam’s house cat so I asked him who his granddaddy was and he said, “You probably don’t remember him, but you ate in his restaurant your first year at Alabama and you sent him a picture that he’s had hung in that place ever since. That picture’s his pride and joy and he still tells everybody about the day that Bear Bryant came in and had chitlins with him.”

“My grandpa said that when you left there, he never expected you to remember him or to send him that picture, but you kept your word to him and to Grandpa, that’s everything. He said you could teach me more than football and I had to play for a man like you, so I guess I’m going to. “I was floored. But I learned that the lessons my mama taught me were always right. It don’t cost nuthin’ to be nice. It don’t cost nuthin’ to do the right thing most of the time, and it costs a lot to lose your good name by breakin’ your word to someone.”

“When I went back to sign that boy, I looked up his Grandpa and he’s still running that place, but it looks a lot better now; and he didn’t have chitlins that day, but he had some ribs that woulda made Dreamland proud and I made sure I posed for a lot of pictures; and don’t think I didn’t leave some new ones for him, too, along with a signed football.”

“I made it clear to all my assistants to keep this story and these lessons in mind when they’re out on the road. If you remember anything else from me, remember this. It really doesn’t cost anything to be nice, and the rewards can be unimaginable.”

[forwarded by JR Whitby]

From the website:

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Inspiration and Replenishment

My Beloved and I have been on a mini-vacation and plan to return home today. These photos were taken from the enclosed balcony adjoining our bedroom of the place we love to stay when we’re in the Monterey/Carmel/Pacific Grove Area. We could see, hear, smell, and feel the invigorating and cleansing power of the waves throughout the day and as we slept. We’re grateful for the many blessings we experience daily, including being able to live so close to such beauty.
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With Love,
Russ

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I’m There!

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With Love,
Russ

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Two of My Favorite People in the Whole Wide World

Twins Face to Face IMG950951Here are my Grandtwins Alexander and Zachary.

With Love,

Russ

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The Circle of Love?

What if the real meaning of the phrase “The Circle of Life” refers to the giving and receiving of love?

With Love,
Russ

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Love and Sacrifice

In a comment to my most recent post, titled “Blindness”, a reader asked some great questions about what my thoughts were on the underlying message of the story and whether complete sacrifice equaled true love. I thought some of you might have interest in my reply:

Some of the underlying messages for me included:

If one sees with their eyes but not their heart, they are still blind.

Sometimes one can fall in love with someone whose heart is not able to reciprocate.

It can be painful and one can lose some of the best parts of themselves if they fall in love with someone who doesn’t have true love for them.

It is wise to grow in love with someone whose heart is ready and able to love them back just as passionately and faithfully.

As for your question regarding sacrifice and true love: I believe that true love doesn’t have to involve sacrifice at all (or loss that is greater than gain). For example, I only want one thing for everyone I love: Lasting joy. Hopefully, I’m a part of their lasting joy, but if I’m not, then it is best for them–and ultimately for me–to not be in their lives. I can’t imagine that true love would ever want anything different than that.

I believe there is a big difference between investing in the relationship (a gift one gives themselves as well as the other(s) in that relationship), and sacrificing for the other person. Resentment can set in and the relationship can be hurt if one focuses on the latter, and the latter will often result in winners and losers–and sometimes only losers. To me, the best chance of achieving a happy outcome for everyone is when everyone focuses on strengthening the relationship.

I don’t believe that love is blind. True love helps us to simply focus on the best parts of others, and to stay connected to the best parts of ourselves.

With Love,
Russ

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Suicide Mission

I’ve just begun a new story on the blog I created for those who like to read my fictional short stories. The blog is called “Imaginings of a Grateful Man” and can be found at http://imaginingsofagratefulman.com.

The new story is titled, “Suicide Mission”. Below is a taste of it. I invite you to check it out

With Love,
Russ

Suicide Mission
By Russ Towne

He awoke from yet another fitful night of sleep, but today would be unlike anything he’d ever experienced before. As he thought about what was to come in the next few hours he felt a surge of excitement, anticipation, fear, and resignation. This was it. Today. The culmination of what felt like a lifetime of planning and preparation.

The papers had finally come. It was about to begin. He even got to choose the agent who would join him on the mission. Her name was Michelle. She was the most beautiful woman he’d ever seen. Tonight she would be in his arms and they would make love. Wild, carefree, ravenous, joyous, love…

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Blindness

I don’t know who wrote it, but I read a story that went something like this:

There was once a blind girl who hated herself and everyone else because she couldn’t see. Everyone, that is, except her boyfriend. She loved him very much and promised that she would marry him if she ever became able to see.

One day a pair of eyes became available and after the surgery she was able to see. It was then she noticed that her boyfriend was blind. She became so angry that she broke up with him.

Later, she received a letter from him. It read: “Please take good care of my eyes.”

That story had a powerful impact on me. I grieved for both of them.

May the girl come to realize that even with her new eyes she remains blind until she learns to see with her heart.

May the boy be blessed with a girl whose heart is as big as his.

With Love,
Russ

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Whole-Heartedness

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Source: The Other Side of Ugly (April Roble’s Photo)

I believe there is much wisdom in these messages.

With Love,
Russ

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