Wind and Fire

“Distance does to love what wind does to fire…
it extinguishes the weak and fuels the strong.”

I love this saying and believe it to be true and profound. This was sent to me by the wonderful lady who married one of my nephews. She is waiting for him to complete his tour as a helicopter pilot in Afghanistan. I think the world of both of them. May they soon be safely reunited. May all people who are serving their countries be safely reunited with their families. For in this world even today’s enemies often become tomorrow’s trading partners, friends, and allies.

Love,
Russ

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Something Punny Tuesday

Cow

Sorry! I couldn’t help myself! I tried to mooove away from the photo but it had me by the horns. And the photo was so black-and-white despite being in color. I think that cow is spot on! Doesn’t she just look bovine? I think this photo is udderly funny.

I hope this post mooooved you as it did me, and that you didn’t think it was too out in left field. I don’t always follow the herd, you know! Or cow-tow to anyone!

I think I’ve milked this theme long enough.

Love,
Russ

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Collateral Compassion and Kindness

When you see a man led to prison say in your heart, “Mayhap he is escaping from a narrower prison.” And when you see a man drunken say in your heart, “Mayhap he sought escape from something still more unbeautiful.” -Kahlil Gibran (Source: Wordsmith.org)

I believe there is much wisdom in these words, and in compassion. When I find myself short on compassion, a little wisdom often goes a long way to remedy the situation.

I rarely feel anger for more than a few seconds or minutes, and hate is an emotion I thankfully purged from myself long ago for completely selfish reasons.

But when I feel disappointment, it typically turns to understanding and then compassion (and sometimes even love on my better days) when I take the time to learn the whole story behind a person’s actions or situation.

I do all of these things for myself, as my life and my world are made better when I do them. If in the process, others recieve collateral compassion and kindness, I’m gladdened by it.

Love,
Russ

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Best Friends

Cowboy horse and dog

An old cowboy was riding his trusty horse followed by his faithful dog along an unfamiliar road. The cowboy was enjoying the new scenery, when he suddenly remembered dying, and realized the dog beside him had been dead for years, as had his horse. Confused, he wondered what was happening, and where the trail was leading them.

After a while, they came to a high, white stone wall that looked like fine marble. At the top of a long hill, it was broken by a tall arch topped by a golden letter “H” that glowed in the sunlight.

Standing before it, he saw a magnificent gate in the arch that looked like mother-of-pearl, and the street that led to the gate looked like gold.

He rode toward the gate, and as he got closer, he saw a man at a desk to one side. Parched and tired out by his journey, he called out, ‘Excuse me, where are we?’

‘This is Heaven, sir,’ the man answered.

‘Wow! Would you happen to have some water?’ the man asked.

‘Of course, sir. Come right in, and I’ll have some ice water brought right up.’

As the gate began to open, the cowboy asked, ‘Can I bring my partners, too?’

‘I’m sorry, sir, but we don’t accept pets.’

The cowboy thought for a moment, then turned back to the road and continued riding, his dog trotting by his side.

After another long ride, at the top of another hill, he came to a dirt road leading through a ranch gate that looked as if it had never been closed. As he approached the gate, he saw a man inside, leaning against a tree and reading a book.

‘Excuse me,’ he called to the man. ‘Do you have any water?’

‘Sure, there’s a pump right over there. Help yourself.’

‘How about my friends here?’ the traveler gestured to the dog and his horse.

‘Of course! They look thirsty, too,’ said the man.

The trio went through the gate, and sure enough, there was an old-fashioned hand pump with buckets beside it. The traveler filled a cup and the buckets with wonderfully cool water and took a long drink, as did his horse and dog.

When they were full, he walked back to the man who was still standing by the tree. ‘What do you call this place?’ the traveler asked.

‘This is Heaven,’ he answered.

‘That’s confusing,’ the traveler said. ‘The man down the road said that was Heaven, too.’

‘Oh, you mean the place with the glitzy, gold street and fake pearly gates? That’s hell.’

‘Doesn’t it make you angry when they use your name like that?’

‘Not at all. Actually, we’re happy they screen out the folks who would leave their best friends behind.’

Love,
Russ
P.S. You’re welcome at my watering hole anytime.

Source of photo and story: Unknown. They were forwarded to me by a friend.

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My Waffle Wedded Wife

I must be in a funny or silly mood today as my posts mostly involve laughter. The video below is no exception despite it being about solemn wedding vows. I love how the wedding official tries to keep it together while the couple is falling apart…

http://www.flixxy.com/wedding-ceremony.htm#.USmPsrSny1l

Love,
Russ

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Ventroliquist Humor

I love to experience laughter, whether it is myself laughing or the laughter of others–preferably both.

I find it is soothing and uplifting, and sometimes when a situation seems dire enough, and the only choices left appear to be to laugh or to cry, I’ve been grateful that I hadn’t ignored my laugh muscles.

I hope you enjoy this brief video as I did.

http://www.bitoffun.com/video_vault/my-dance-moves.htm

Love and laughter,

Russ
PS The title of this post was originally “Ventriloquest Humor” due either to a typo or the fact that a ventriloquest is a quest one takes when they become a ventriloquist. I leave it for my astute readers to decide.
;-D!

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Get Your Stories Straight

(This is a re-post for newer friends of this site.)

Like nearly all siblings, our sons sometimes got into quarrels. When that occurred, my Beloved and I attempted to unravel how it started so we could create learning lessons as well as determine fair and appropriate consequences for their actions.

Not surprisingly, their versions of what happened sometimes differed greatly. In those situations where it was clear to us that there were no innocent victims and that they’d both broken some rules, rather than try to unravel their stories (which often created more heat than light) we found what we considered to be a fairly elegant solution.

We sent them into a room and told them that they were to stay in there until they got their stories straight and agreed on what had taken place.

Then we closed the door and waited. At first we sometimes heard continued bickering, and then silence. But usually fairly quickly, negotiations began. They realized that the length of time they’d be stuck in the room with each other, and the severity of their other consequences-—if any—-became completely dependent on working together to create a story that got them both off the hook.

“Well maybe you weren’t trying to hit me with the ball, and I only shoved you a little bit just kinda playing around, right?”

“Maybe you didn’t eat my ice cream bar and I only thought you did, and maybe I got permission from you to eat your cookies and you just kinda forgot that you said it was ok, right?”

Once they got their stores straight, they came out and told their revised story.

It was interesting and humorous to my Beloved and me that to no matter how heated the original argument, or how mistreated by the other they felt they had been, that by the time they came out of the room they agreed that the situation had mostly been one big misunderstanding or that that the terrible wrongs that had been inflicted on each other weren’t nearly as bad as they’d originally thought!

Sometimes the stories were said with almost-gritted teeth, and sometimes they had to work through some amazing mental gymnastics to go from their original stories to the ones that they negotiated.

Sure, we knew that were probably weren’t getting the whole truth and nothing but the truth, but we figured that we probably weren’t getting it before either and that we’d only been getting their versions of the truth anyway.

At least with this “Get Your Stories Straight” strategy, they had to do the work to solve the problem–-instead of Beloved and me–-and they had to work together to do it!

Besides, it was fun to hear how much their stories changed when they worked together versus when they were each trying to get the other into trouble! The hardest part for my Beloved and I was to act serious during some very humorous story changes, especially as their faces and body language contorted along with their stories!

And harmony was more quickly restored in our home.

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Laughing At Mistakes

Here’s some healthy humor for those who could use an extra-large dose of it today:

“Laughing at your mistakes can lengthen your life. Laughing at your wife’s can shorten it.” –CK/Forever Awezome

Love,
Russ

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Jonathan? Is That You?

I saw something blur by
It was high in the sky
And quite an amazing show
As I stood on the shore far below.
It was a bright white bird with glowing wings
The fastest seagull I’ve ever seen.
He soared then plunged again and again
Like he was in a race he just had to win.
Blazed through the air
Faster than other gulls would dare.
I shouted up as he flew into view,
“Jonathan? Is that you?”
I just stood there and could barely blink
When he nodded his head and gave me a wink
I waved as he flew
And yelled, “Nice to meet you!”
He dipped a wing as if to say, “Same to you!” as he flew away.
And I bet I’ll never forget who I met that day!
–Russ Towne

This poem is a tribute to the book “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” and its main character. It’s one of my favorite books. I read it for the first time as a teenager and it had a major positive affect on my life regarding feeling different and choosing my own way in life, and how that is ok.

Love,
Russ

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Photos From Shangri-La

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Here are a few photos taken from the enclosed balcony of the Bed & Breakfast where stayed in Pacific Grove. The photos don’t do the picturesque scenes justice. They were taken from an iPad, at less than ideal times of day, when the sun, tide, and waves weren’t at their best. Plus, I am still unfamiliar with taking photos with the kind of awkward device for taking photos. I kept missing the timing of the best wave action even during these off-times. After missing them for about 20 photos, I decided to quit trying to capture them and go back to simply enjoying them.

The house was built in 1888. The enclosed balcony had a little bed that barely fit two snuggling adults. We lay there and watched and listened to the sights and sounds of the sea. The main bedroom was elevated perhaps two feet so that both rooms had excellent views. The larger room had a bigger bed that faced the ocean.

My Beloved can be barely be seen in one of the photos in the balcony bed which is also elevated a bit so that the views are maximized and remove from view the road while in either bed. It is only while standing near the windows (as in while taking photos) that the road is visible. Fortunately, it had little traffic as this is the “off-season”. We actually prefer being in PG at this time of year as it is quieter, with a lot fewer tourists, and the waves are at their biggest and best between November and February. The room rates are much cheaper this time of year too.

Love,
Russ

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