Baditude

Earlier today I was asked by a blogging friend if I had coined the word “Baditude”. I thought some of you might be interested in my reply:

“Baditude” is one of several words that I think I coined and don’t think I heard anywhere before, but I’ll bet the minute I claim that I coined a word, someone will say it came from someplace else–not in a nefarious way but a factual one–but for now, I think I coined it.

I’d rather coin several words I like and not be concerned about who claims or gets credit for them than to hold off using them just because someone else might have thought of the word first.

The same is true for phrases and quotes too. I posted a quote recently and for the first time put my name on it. I cringed doing it because even though I believe I came up with it first, I’d hate to have someone accuse me of stealing it from someplace else, so I usually just say the quote or phrase as part of a post and not make a big deal about it or attribute it to anyone. I figure if I was the first and it is worth remembering, it was worth sharing regardless of who is credited with it.

What’s that saying, “Success has many fathers, but failure is an orphan.” (And no I didn’t coin that phrase but I wish I had. It’s a good one!)

Russ

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Too High of A Price to Pay

(Pre-post note about re-post:

Dear friends:

I’m self-employed and the busiest time of my professional life is usually shortly after the end of each calendar quarter, as that is when I write and send to all of my Clients personalized letters along with reports regarding how their portfolios have done. As it is that time of the quarter right now, I’m putting extra focus on that activity until it is completed. I apologize for delays in communicating with you, enjoying your posts, etc. I hope to have all of the “quarterlies” out within the next week or so, but in the meantme it is likely that you’ll be receiving fewer posts, “likes”, and comments from me despite my best effort to respond to you in a timely mnner. As part of those efforts, I will most likely do some re-posts–such as the one below–for newer readers. I apologize to earlier followers for the re-runs.

Thank you all for your patience, support, and friendship!

From a truly grateful man,
Russ)

I was recently reminded of a saying that I like and believe is true. It is below, but I’ve taken some creative license with it.

‘There is enough good in the worst of us, and enough bad in the best of us, that it behooves all of us to cut each other some slack.’

I often put that concept to good use. For example, when a driver cuts me off or does something else that I consider rude, mindless, or dangerous, and I find anger or frustration building inside of me, I attempt to remember to remind myself that I have sometimes done rude things while driving.

Sometimes when I’ve run late for an important meeting, haven’t had enough sleep, was angry about something else, had to go to the bathroom, or was just plain being absent-minded, I’ve found myself doing the same things that I sometimes get angry at when other drivers do it “to me”.

When I take a moment to think about it, in nearly all such cases the other driver probably doesn’t know or care who I am or what I think about their driving, and their actions had nothing to do with me.

Taking personal offense might be a good way to raise my blood pressure and decrease my focus on driving safely, but it’s unlikely to have any impact at all on the other driver.

When I react to other drivers, I’m voluntarily giving away my power and putting myself at effect of their actions. When I’m wise enough to remember this belief I can shake off the anger and negative feelings and move on with my life.

When I forget to do that, I can end up in a sour mood, sometimes for quite awhile–and even a minute of that is sixty seconds subtracted from my life without experiencing anything positive in exchange for it.

That is too high of a price for me to pay!

So, I try to remember that I too make mistakes and it makes sense for me to “cut everyone some slack”.

Russ

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Abundance and Gratitude

“”…abundance flows into your life when gratitude flows out of your heart.” –Jon Gordon (as mentioned by Andrea Kelly at http://thehandwrittenlife.wordpress.com/ Thank you, Andrea!)

I cetainly have found that there is much truth in this statement–though there catruth, n be a little lag time so it pays to be patient too! ;-D!

Russ

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The Two Most Important Days

“The two most imporant days in your life are the day you are born…and the day you find out why.” –Mark Twain

There is so much truth in that sentence that it stopped me in my tracks when I read it. Powerful!

I saw the quote at “Waiting for the Karma Truck”. http://waitingforthekarmatruck.com/

Thank you mimijk. We’ve barely met but I like what I’ve seen at your blog and plan to spend a lot more time there.

Russ

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“Every human being’s essential nature is perfect and faultless, but after years of immersion in the world we easily forget our roots and take on a counterfeit nature.” -Lao-Tzu

I saw this quote at http://A.Word.A.Day.org © 2012 Wordsmith.org

I believe there is much truth in the above saying. I’ve found all I need to do is to simply watch for evidence of the spirit in others. As I developed the habit to do so, I began to notice that it is everywhere–and I love how my spirit responds to experiencing the spirit in others. It is a wonderfully self-reinforcing cycle.

Russ

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The Other Side Of Me

Below is a slightly revised repost that is important to me for my newer readers to see.

I have received a number of great compliments from many of you lately and appreciate every single one of them. A lot. Thank you for taking time out of your day to brighten mine.

But there is another side of me that I want you to know. The small and petty side. The weak and selfish, impatient, disappointed, and angry side. The Stinking Thinking, Pity-Party, Woe-Is-Me, nothing-is-good-enough side. I too often have an awful case of Baditude. I think that word pretty accurately (actually, “UGLY accurately” would be closer to the truth!) describes a side of me that wants to scowl and frown in the face of incredible blessings. A side that makes me not even want to be with me in those moments.

A side that my friends and family love me in spite of–and for which I’m eternally grateful. But a side that blog readers who’ve never met me–which is nearly all of you–may never see if I don’t share it with you too. I’m not sure as to all the reasons why this is important to me but I know that it is.

Perhaps it is partly because I’d feel like a phony if I was liked for only the best parts of me.

And while part of me says I shouldn’t care what others think, the truth is that I do. I care a lot. But I’d much rather risk having people dislike me for who I truly am than to have them like only a false vision of me.

The truth is that I’m humble, but I’m also arrogant, and sometimes even vain. That I’m a hero and a coward. I have both great and petty thoughts. I sometimes think I’ve got life well in hand and sometimes think that I don’t have a clue. I’m generous and selfish. Wise and foolish. Proud and ashamed. I write to give and to get.

This hasn’t been an easy post for me to write, but it is perhaps one of the ones most important for me to have written.

Thank you for reading it.

Russ

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Keep Shining!

Some online friends are having the kind of day we all have and wish we didn’t. I responded to one of them with a message that may be useful to you too, so I decided to post it to everyone:

I hear you. When I get overwhelmed by the big picture, I find that it helps me when I stop and take several deep breaths, and start focusing on the small picture for awhile. That gives my sub-conscious brain a chance to keep working on a possible answer while I distract my overly-active conscious brain with a chore, or with the beauty of a sunset or silhouette. Then, often when I least suspect it, my sub-conscious provides the answer. I just have to give it a quiet space to do so.

In my case, if my mind feels too cluttered, I also unclutter another part of my life–such as my desk. It makes me feel better and gives me more room to breathe, think, and to simply be.

You have such a bright spirit that you almost can’t help but shine on others. Keep shining. Your own light will help guide your way.

Russ

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I believe the fool is MUCH wiser than he or she let’s on! The fool loves even knowing knowing that with it can come heartbreak, and risks even knowing that with it can come failure, and laughs even knowing that there will come sadness and grief. But the tyrant just takes. He sucks the joy and spontanity out of our lives, and keeps us cowering in the cages of our fear, self-doubt, loathing, and false feelings of unworthiness.
Russ

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A lesson for today – at least for me.  I am guilty certainly of being foolish, feeling more than is good for me (sometimes I see the world only in primary colors, which can give you a migraine after a while), suffering my losses and not acknowledging my wins.  There are days when I cry over  nothing, my emotional strength sapped and my ability to get out of my way completely ineffective.

Conversely, when I am wrapped in joy – as one would be a really fabulous terry cloth robe – I don’t think about it as something to cherish, to protect or celebrate.  I delight in the moment, and do little to protect it from the harsher judgments that may later follow.  My friend Lori calls it the little green monster that jumps up and down on her shoulder, whispering the words of self-doubt and harsh judgments that can…

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Oneness

“To give up on someone is to give up on the parts of me that I see in them.” –Russ Towne

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Tears

This post is dedicated to all who are in pain, feeling alone, broken-hearted, and/or grieving–or have been. In other words this is dedicated to everyone.

Part of being alive is experiencing pain. For many people, pain can lead to tears, and for some, tears pile shame onto their pain.

I believe that tears can be a sign and source of strength, of connectness, of being able to truly feel when so much of the world does all they can to get and stay numb.

Tears are a way of ackowledging I can STILL feel. I can feel my pain. I can feel yours. I haven’t given up on myself, on you, or on the world. I’m strong enough to hang in there despite the pain and the desire to numb it.

The tears are here to not only help heal but to enlighten–to literally lighten our load and illuminate a life lesson that must be learned so growth can occur. To help us to become wiser and stronger. And in the process to gain the courage to forgive and to show kindness and have empathy not only to friends, nor just to strangers, but to all who may have wronged or harmed us.

If tears are from pain today, they are a gift. Embracing them can lead to healing and help us to grow stronger. While it may or may not feel like it at the time, I believe that every tear is a step away from pain and toward the possibiities of greater joy in our lives.

And I know that some day more tears will come–for you and for me–for life offers many detours and obstacles from which we may learn and grow. But if we are patient, and if we continue to work on making ourselves the kind of people we so badly want to become, life will someday provide us with a very different kind of tears–tears of joy. And those are worth of every step, and every painful tear, that brought us to a more joyous life.

Until that day, please know that there are many in the world–most who have never even yet had the opportunity to meet you–who wish good things for you.

I am one of them.

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