Work and Play

I wanted to clarify my comments about work and play I made earlier as it appears I may have been unclear. For me, work is mostly play, and play is nearly all play. I define work as something I would need to be be paid or coerced into doing. As an example of the latter, in my wealth management business there are some regulatory and paperwork things I don’t enjoy doing that must be done to stay in the business. I view them as the cost of admission so I can play the rest of the time. For that reason, I’m probably closer to 95% play/5% work. As it is a regulation-intensive business, 95% play is probably the best I’ll ever achieve if I want to stay in the the investment and wealth management business I so love. Some day, however, I may decide to go for 100% by getting out of that business and going back to helping my friends and family invest without charging them for it.

With love,

Russ

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What Works For Me

A reader recently wrote that said she struggled with the “work/live” balance and asked me to let her know if I ever solved it. Many face the same challenge. I have for most of my life. Here is my reply to the reader:

“It took me nearly forty years to figure out how to do it (I’m a slow learner) but I finally found the recipe that works for me. It took time and multiple steps, and the transition had setbacks along the way, but the changes I made have made a huge difference in the quality of my life and the amount of joy in it.

“I got out of a profession I’d been in decades and had come to hate, and found something I love to do so much that I did it for free for friends and family before they convinced me I should make a profession out of it. I now professionally manage investments and wealth of many of the people I care deeply deeply care about and love doing it. In that way, “work” is play.

“I also found I love to write. I finished my first book less than four years ago and have since written nearly thirty more. I enjoy the writing, reader compliments and support, and the royalties I receive for my efforts. It’s another form of “work” that feels much more like play to me most of the time.

“My professions make for a very flexible schedule. I can also perform them from almost anywhere. When family or friends need or want to be with me, I can focus on them. In that way I can be maximally available to my family and friends when it is convenient for them. They get all the time they want with me, and I with them. There is rarely any work/play tension because I get to play all the time, doing what I love, with the people I love.”

With Love,
Russ

 

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A Jarring Contradiction

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I just looked at one of the walls in my office and this is what I saw. I had to laugh at the jarring contradiction that is my life.

It’s easy to see why I’d never make it as an interior decorator.

With Love,

Russ

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Today’s Quote

Oh what a terrible fate that would be.
With love,
Russ

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It all began with her

Thank you for the reminder, David. There is still time, but it is slipping way.
Russ

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Bob Greene, excerpts from I Actually Thanked A TeacherNow 88, she gave me a refresher in the lesson I’d learned in first grade: how to read the word ‘look.’ (wsj.com, April 12, 2017):

…My first-grade teacher was named Patricia Ruoff…I still recall the day she helped me learn the first word I could ever read…and she showed me what the shape of the four letters on the first page meant, and what they sounded like. That one word: “Look.”

I went home so thrilled that day. I knew how to read a word. “Look.” When the day had begun I hadn’t known it, and now I did. Such a magical feeling, accompanied by the sure knowledge that other words would soon follow. […]

it became important to me to find that teacher. It took some doing—it turns out she has been twice widowed, and thus has had two…

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Fear, Sour Grapes, Shrinking, & Growing

I’ve too often let fear keep me from doing things I’ve wanted to do. Or perhaps I just just didn’t want to do those things badly enough (though that sounds a bit like “sour grapes” rationalizing to me.)

In more recent years, as my time remaining on this earthly plane continues to shrink, I have grown, and have won my fight with fear far more often than it has conquered me.

With Love,

Russ

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Today’s Quote

My fears are still there. Perhaps I’ll never lose them. I just face them and create anyway.
With Love,
Russ

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“I’ll Cry a Little and Then Laugh Again”

Our 3-year-old grandson Alex comes up with the most profound comments. When an adult asked another grandson to stop poking or tickling Alex, they added,  “Although he’s laughing now, if you keep doing it he’ll eventually cry about it. Alex immediately informed the adult, “I’ll just cry a little and then laugh again.”

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Even at the tender age of 3-years old, Alex understands the wisdom of sometimes taking a little time to cry, and then to begin to laugh again.

(Alex is on the left in the photo, being held by my Beloved and with his twin brother Zach.)

With Love,

Russ

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Held Back…

I love this great reminder. The whole world combined doesn’t hold me back as much as I do.
With Love,
Russ

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Excellent Advice from a 3-Year Old

On my Beloved’s trip back to Maryland with our son Brian and his family to help them navigate airports and the myriad challenges of traveling with twin three-year olds and an eight month-old, she received excellent advice:

Three-year-old Alex said to her with a serious look on his face, “You know, you shouldn’t stick out your tongue because bugs would land on it and it would be yucky.”

It’s amazing the things we learn from our grandchildren.

With Love,

Russ

 

 

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