How Saying “I Do” Changed My Life

“I DO”. Two of the shortest words in the English language, yet they come with the longest commitments two people can share.

I said them nearly 34 years ago and meant them. Thankfully, My Beloved did too—the saying and the meaning them.

It’s a good thing too, because life is full of surprises and not all of them are pleasant.

So how did saying “I do” change my life? Those two little words gave to me a true life partner, friend, and grinding stone for the rock tumbler called life.

We both came into the relationship with a LOT of rough edges. I was only 21 and she was a year younger. We were thrown together like rough stones into the rock tumbler of life.

We went round and round, noisily banging into each other, but always there with, and for, each other. In it together. Something we could count on even as life spun us round and round. Over time we slowly ground each other’s rough edges down.

While our relationship hasn’t always fun, and was often quite noisy, over time we both grew more polished, shined more brightly, and became a lot better for the experience.

Things will often get rocky, so it pays to keep rolling. That’s the stone-cold truth that we never take for granite.

With Love,


About russtowne

I'm awed by the beauty of nature and the power of love and gratitude. Some of my favorite sensory experiences include waves crashing on rocky shores, waterways in ancient redwood and fern-filled forests, and rain. My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I manage a wealth management firm that I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of approximately 60 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children.
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12 Responses to How Saying “I Do” Changed My Life

  1. I didn’t say “I do” I said “I will” but the meaning is the same and had no idea how my life would change after I went from a Miss to a Mrs…………….

  2. bulldog says:

    34 is a long time but I think from earlier than that one becomes one with each other… I’ve been 40 and things are now just so much more synchronized like a good automatic gear box…

    • russtowne says:

      I think of it similarly, bulldog. I refer to our gears meshing smoothly most of the time, but occasionally they start to grind and we’ve learned to immediately deal with whatever is making them grind. That routine maintenance prevents a complete breakdown and permanent damage.

  3. utesmile says:

    It is great to find a real mate to go through thick and thin, rough and smooth moments of life!

  4. mimijk says:

    I loved this – even the groaner at the end…;-)

  5. Patty B says:

    saying “I do” was the smartest thing I ever did. We always kissed each other good night and never took each other for “granite” – although there were times we started to. Now I have cherished memories to hold close to my heart.

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