I believe that ego corrodes relationships, self-confidence, and feelings of self-worth. My ego used to run nearly constant unnecessary and harmful replays in my mind of instances that happened long ago that brought on feelings of shame, guilt, pain, and embarrassment, and since I didn’t know any better, I used to let my ego get away with it to terrible effect.
Over time, I’ve gradually learned a way that works much better for me and built it into a habit that has freed my mind to focus on things that nourish rather than poison it.
Whenever I catch myself thinking about an incident that brings on feelings of shame, guilt, pain, and embarrassment, I attempt to quickly ask myself:
“Have you learned the lesson(s) and accepted the gift(s) life gave to you when those experiences occurred?”
If my answer is yes, I remind myself that my ego is replaying a scenario in my mind that is no longer needed and is harming me. Then I change the subject in my mind.
This approach has made a world of difference in my life, and I count it among the many blessings for which I’m grateful.
Russ
Russ Towne's A Grateful Man 
Needed to read this….thanks for sharing.
I’m glad that it was timely for you. May you always feel welcome, respected, and valued here.
Rus
Thank you, Russ. Reminds of a Louise Hay quote- “the point of power is in the present moment”
May the force always be with you!
LOL! And with you, my long-time friend! (Notice that I didn’t say “old” friend. You’re way too young to be called old!)
Russ
I remember reading once that humans are the only animals that blame themselves again and again for the same mistake. The rest of the animal kingdom certainly isn’t bemoaning that gazelle that missed felling, or that tumble they took off a branch…they move on, and prolly learn even so.
Another good one: it’s just life in form–there is no “I”….and without I , life is so much more interesting. Someone (not I, certainly!) is telling herself this as much as you…hehe..:)
Pronouns!! Whatcha gonna do…
You crack me up, my friend, and I lurve it! I’m not nearly as concerned about pronouns as I am about connouns. The latter are so much fickly trickier. They’re used a lot by Congress when its pretending to try to make progress. But then, I digress… I guess I’ve turned this comment into quite a mess.
You shake me so it’s all your fault, but I’ve gotta draw the line somewhere or you’ll soon have me quaking in my shoes.
Russ
Great share Russ…
Thank you, bullldog.
Russ
I’m grateful for you post b/c it’s something that haunts me as well sometimes. xo
I appreciate hearing that it might have value for you, Misifusa. I enjoy learning from you, too.
Russ
Oh it does Russ. xo
I’m happy to hear that, my friend.
Hugs,
Russ
An incredibly powerful post Russ!!! Your self-honesty and clarity in how you spell out the subtle ploys of the ego and how you have learnt to tame it is wonderful! This post is a lifeline to so many trapped in the constant replays of the mind. Some of the best journeys and victories are the inner ones we make in our minds. Thank you so much for the wisdom and insight! Sharon
Thank you for your kind and generous comment, Sharon. “…trapped in the constant replays of the mind. Some of the best journeys and victories are the inner ones we make in our minds.” Speaking of wisdom and insight, these thoughts you shared show an abundance of wisdom and insight. I’m very happy that we are in each other’s lives–and the positive impact you have on mine–even though we’re half a world apart.
Russ
Likewise dear Russ. The feeling is mutual. Blessings to you…
And to you my friend.