Being There

Many of the most powerful moments in my life, the times I feel the most alive, the most useful, and the most connected to everyone and everything are those times I am there when someone needs me the most.

Just being there and walking through the fire or sitting in it with them, creating a safe space for their anger, grief, despair, pain, shame, loneliness, fear, and/or whatever else they are experiencing or being tormented by, and staying with them until the fire subsides, has often meant everything to me.

People often thank me for being there for them as though they somehow owed a debt of gratitude to me for being there for them. From my perspective, it is I who owe them, for the huge gift they gave to me for allowing me to be with them in their most awful moments, sharing their darkest hours, worst fears, and most painful times with me.

I live for such moments. It is why I’m alive. I’ve arranged my life so that I can drop everything and be there any time of the day or night.

To those who have honored me by allowing me to be there at such times, I owe a debt of gratitude. Thank you!

With Love,


About russtowne

I'm awed by the beauty of nature and the power of love and gratitude. Some of my favorite sensory experiences include waves crashing on rocky shores, waterways in ancient redwood and fern-filled forests, and rain. My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I manage a wealth management firm that I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of approximately 60 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children.
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8 Responses to Being There

  1. You are a blessing Russ.

  2. BEING, and BEING THERE – perhaps two of the most important ways to live…

  3. ksbeth says:

    this is so important and your perspective is so right on. i know you are there for many.

  4. Mrs. P says:

    I too fond great rewards in being able to be there for another person. Though I can’t say I drop everything, but I do try to make their situation an important part of my life, or should I say their life. If we could all just be there for someone…life would be that much better.

    I found that in doing so I am setting an example for others and for the first time, I saw someone who is important in my life…think of another…because they observed they were having a couple of bad days. It was unusual for this person to do so and seeing them do it…made my day.

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