The holidays and new year can be especially difficult for those who are experiencing difficult times and relationships, or no relationships at all, health problems, etc. Some people I love are dealing with depression and struggling to cling to hope.
This post is for those who are in a similar situation. It is not meant as a cure-all or silver bullet. It is, however, a description of the way that I eventually found to help myself learn to gradually face the sun so my shadows didn’t overwhelm me.
I know the effort won’t be an easy one. It wasn’t for me. I often found myself sliding backwards–and occasionally still do–but I am much farther ahead than if I hadn’t tried at all.
Through trial and error, I found that what worked best for me and led to much greater joy in my life and true forgiveness of the actions of others and myself, came down to a single word.
It is when I focused on ways to be grateful for every experience that I began to see the gifts that were given to me from each.
I looked for positive things that came from even my greatest “tragedies” and always eventually found some.
Even people who did and said awful things to me unknowingly helped me to have greater empathy and compassion for others who were being bullied or were going through tough times.
The effort required that I look at current and past experiences in a different way.
When I caught myself focusing on the bad, I reminded myself that doing so in the past tended to lead to increasing numbers of bad things happening to me, and that when I focused on the positive, my attitude and actions became more positive which inevitably led to attracting more positive people and experiences into my life.
May your heart experience greater joy and your spirit shine even brighter throughout the new year.