Living Life Inside Out

A recent post by Peter Wells at Counting Ducks mentioned a phrase something along the lines of “Living life inside out”. That reminded me of a post I’d written some time ago with a similar theme and I decided to post most of it again for newer readers below.

Living Life Inside Out

I used to keep nearly all of myself hidden deep inside, afraid as to how the world would react if they could see the real me. And, sometimes, when I screwed up enough courage to let a little of myself out as a youngster and even as an adult, sure-enough there were often people who delighted in making fun of me or ridiculing my ideas. So, I’d go run and hide inside again. It hurt too much to have people I loved and respected ridicule me or my ideas, or worse to me in some ways, completely ignore or not acknowledge the changes I was making and the creations I began to share.

But over time, as I continued working on myself, I began to attract more people into my life who I could count on to celebrate the changes and creations occurring from within me that I increasingly shared with the world. Many of you are a huge part of that, and I’ll be forever grateful.

With your “likes”, “following”, comments, readership, and best of all, friendship, I am living my life inside-out, sharing the real me, and loving life much more than I’ve ever done before.

Thank you for the role that you’ve played in this wonderful transformation.

With Love,


About russtowne

My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 4 young grandsons. I manage a wealth management firm I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of 23 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children. In addition to my family, friends, investing, and writing, my passions include reading, watching classic movies, experiencing waves crashing on rocky shores, hiking in ancient redwood forests, and enjoying our small redwood grove and fern garden.
This entry was posted in Acceptance, Authentic Living, Friendship, Gratitude and tagged , , , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink.

13 Responses to Living Life Inside Out

  1. Professions for PEACE says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this wonderfully heartfelt post. This past autumn I chose to (finally) release an old friendship with someone who treated me poorly. She was rather toxic in the way she always made fun and brought me down, yet I tried to rise above it and look beyond it, until a true friend helped me see Why would I want to keep someone in my life like that, just because I’d known her for over a decade?! Oh the joys of only surrounding ourselves with those who support us and want to celebrate the good things with us. Go Russ Go! I cheer you on and am always so grateful for your encouragement and support of me and my writing.
    With genuine gratitude, your friend, Gina

    • russtowne says:

      Thank you for such a wonderful gift as your comment, my dear friend. You speak to my heart and it joyfully responds. I’m so glad you have moved beyond the false friend who put you down. May your list of friends grow in direct proportion to the amount of love in your heart, and if so, the number of your friends will be ever-growing.

  2. mimijk says:

    In sharing yourself with us Russ, you have enriched and inspired us (and if it is disingenuous to speak of the masses, then I will say you have enriched and inspired me). Long may you share your journey – it’s a pleasure to be along for the ride.

  3. Thank you for that part of your journey that I have shared.
    I do understand what you mean about some people simply not understanding, and then feeling the hurt and pain. It takes great courage to rise above the pain by living your true self.
    Thanks for the inspiration to do the same.

    • russtowne says:

      Thank you for your kind and thought-provoking comment, Elizabeth. You are correct, it took courage, though at some point, it wasn’t just that I wanted to share what I had inside, so much as it was that I NEEDED to share it. The love and ideas had been building up so much pressure inside me for so long, that I felt I could barely breathe anymore if I didn’t release them. When, with the support of a few key friends and readers, I finally opened up just a little more, the love and ideas exploded from me like a water-hose through a drinking straw.

      • Ah. I see you have written about this now in another post. (I am a little slow picking up my comments). Thanks for the mention, and I am so glad that you did make that decision to share.

  4. utesmile says:

    You know Russ I was the same. Also I did work hard on myself too, read self help books, and changed. I have always been a person with much love inside, but now I feel I can expess it better an dI am much happier being the real me… also loving my life so much more!

  5. And you Russ do the same for many of us as well…. Diane

  6. Mrs. P says:

    What you describe is what I will call the turtle effect. I think each one of us goes through it at some point in life. But, as you say, when you surround yourself with loving , nurturing and supportive people you can one day discover that you were never a turtle…you were a beautiful butterfly or a graceful bird and you have learned to soar as high as you can dream. That breakthrough is so exhilarating that you want to share it with others because the thing that is even more exciting that your new found wings is being able to dance in the wind with others in a spirit play…just like a child who know no limitations…they just create and creativity is beautiful at any age.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s