I was recently asked to give a talk to a group of about 50 men on the subject of real love and being in long-term relationships. A list of suggested specific topics to discuss was incIuded but I felt that the list dealt almost exclusively with negative aspects of being in long-term relationships. Although each did have a role to play in such relationships and most of them had impacted mine in various ways, I felt they painted a negative, one-sided, and unrealistic view of real love and long-term relationships.
So, to put more balance into the talk, I came up with a list of things that I believe are positive aspects of true or real love and being in committed long-term relationships and thought you might be interested in my take of same:
Having true love and being in a long-term committed relationship have also provided many tangible benefits to me and my life including the joys (both great and small), the fun, the laughter, the greater intimacy, the feeling of true partnership and of having someone who won’t abandon me when times get tough, the relief of having who nurses me when I am sick, the growth that comes from having someone whose very existence challenges me to become better and greater, who has brought my children into this world and enabled me to have grandchildren, who shares key dreams and morals, of co-creating a good life, a sounding board with my happiness at heart, someone who is able to provide a woman’s touch and point of view and softness and beauty into my house and make it into a warm and loving home, the adventure, the value of having someone who lets me be and become who I was born to be, and co-creates a home that is a safe harbor and a place of all the above.
Russ











