When Will I Learn?

A friend just reminded me that I can either judge people or I can love them. I’m amazed at how often I forget that love is the answer to so many questions. It’s such a simple concept that I often overlook how true and powerful it is.

I’m often disappointed when I project my expectations on others Β My expectations corrode relationships, and my acceptance and love heals them. When will I truly learn and model this truth? My life and my attitude always improve when I accept others and focus on the blessings they provide by being in my life. I’ve got a lifetime of work continuing to become the person I want to be. It’s an ironic tragedy that when I focus on “fixing” others, I stop growing myself.

For me the way to bliss is love, acceptance, connection, gratitude, and listening to the whispers of my heart. Β I ask you as my friends that whenever you experience me projecting my expectations on others that you kindly bring it to my attention. It may take a 2 x 4 to the head.

May your day be filled with blessings.

With Love,


About russtowne

I'm awed by the beauty of nature and the power of love and gratitude. Some of my favorite sensory experiences include waves crashing on rocky shores, waterways in ancient redwood and fern-filled forests, and rain. My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I manage a wealth management firm that I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of approximately 60 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children.
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19 Responses to When Will I Learn?

  1. Learning to accept people for who they are and who we want them to be without reaching for the 2×4 can be so hard for some

  2. Mrs. P says:

    Rules to live by. πŸ˜€

  3. Russ it’s never ending isn’t it? This process to being a better version of ourselves??? I really loved this post.

    • russtowne says:

      It is indeed, Colleen. Fortunately, the blessings that come with a growth focus greatly outweigh the effort to grow. Thank you for your kind comment.

  4. ksbeth says:

    it’s so easy to slip into, and good to slip out of. so well said, russ –

  5. We glow as we grow. This was a page from the book πŸ“š of many.
    Isadora 😎

  6. utesmile says:

    Well said Russ, it is always so easy to forget and we always need reminders by others!

  7. russtowne says:

    Thank you, Ute. I know reminders and encouragement from friends such as you make a huge positive difference in my life.

  8. samba2017 says:

    Thanks for sharing. Your username is brilliant! I have a poetry blog here on WordPress and today’s poem is about self acceptance and love in case you have time to look? Wishing you a fulfilling day ahead, Sam πŸ™‚

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