The Kind of Friend I Want to Be

The Kind of Friend I Want to Be

One day I found I had false friends

It broke my heart and I blamed them

But blaming those I couldn’t count on

Taught me nothing and I was wrong

I had the friends I deserved

For true friends I’d be better served

To change myself and become one

To learn to do what must be done

Train my eyes to clearly see

What their eyes are telling me

All the things so hard to say

Keep listening ‘til they find a way

To share their pain, grief and fears,

Hear with my heart not just my ears

Give a loving hug when they need one

When they’re defeated and when they’ve won

Stand with them in life’s hottest fires

Help them achieve what they desire

Then speak my truth while being kind

So they’ll know what’s on my mind

Share my passions, fears, and dreams,

My best laid plans and crazy schemes

I do these things for them and me

To be the friend I want to be

I now have friends both tried and true

Who appreciate the things I do

They’re there for me and me for them

My life is brighter with true friends

–Russ Towne

With Love,


About russtowne

I'm awed by the beauty of nature and the power of love and gratitude. Some of my favorite sensory experiences include waves crashing on rocky shores, waterways in ancient redwood and fern-filled forests, and rain. My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I manage a wealth management firm that I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of approximately 60 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children.
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29 Responses to The Kind of Friend I Want to Be

  1. Filled with heart and soul, beautiful Russ!

  2. Mrs. P says:

    I love it! It speaks of a journey that many of us have traveled on.

    • russtowne says:

      Thank you, Mrs. P. In my case it is a journey that is unlikely to end while a breath remains in me. I have a lot more learning left to do.


      • Mrs. P says:

        As do I, Russ. It is that learning that keeps life interesting. The day I think I know it all will be the day I get smacked down hard, life’s cruel way of saying, “Oh, no you don’t.” It a good humbling agent and makes me a better student. 😉

  3. You know the truth of friendship Russ. I looked forward to this and knew it would feel good.

  4. Be what you want others to be for you. Love it Russ! ❤
    Diana xo

  5. OldenGray says:

    A very beautiful poem and one that rhymes so nicely. A wonderful performance!

    • russtowne says:

      I’m delighted by your comment, OldenGray. Thank you!

      • OldenGray says:

        I don’t know if you knew this RussTowne but there is a duck flying upside down on your main page. I ordered a copy to see if in fact I was simply reading it the wrong way. These computers can be daffy like that. I’ll get back to you once I figure it out! :o)

        • russtowne says:

          LOL! Thank you, OldenGray. I love the expressions on the faces of the other ducks who are flying near him on one of the inner pages. Someone who bought the book for their child told me that every time they read it to him the child would see the upside down duck on the cover, interrupt and say, “Daddy! You’re reading the book upside down!”

  6. utesmile says:

    Wonderful poem and a super message. Yes so true! Love it!

  7. ksbeth says:

    you understand the real meaning of life, russ. and so well said.

  8. viladev says:

    this poem like playing with word and have worthy message, great… 🙂

  9. Greet Grief says:

    Love this because it is SO TRUE! You need to be a friend to have one and only those friendships that are a give and take are worthy of having!!

  10. kmabarrett says:

    Another great one!

  11. Akanksha says:

    Well said !!
    Nice poem and thoughts … Loved reading this .

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