I’ve sometimes wanted to grasp onto my anger, pain, and feelings of victim-hood, and never let go. They helped to define me and my situation, and it sometimes felt good to throw myself a big old pity party. It is only when I came to realize the gifts that I received from those who had done “terrible” things to me–the growth that came from it, the ways that I grew stronger, more compassionate toward the suffering and pain of others, etc–and how much my unwillingness to forgive was holding me back and robbing me of joy in the present–that forgiveness became easier and more desirable. I ended up forgiving others as a gift to myself, one of the greatest gifts I’ve ever given or received.

With Love,


About russtowne

My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 4 young grandsons. I manage a wealth management firm I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of 23 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children. In addition to my family, friends, investing, and writing, my passions include reading, watching classic movies, experiencing waves crashing on rocky shores, hiking in ancient redwood forests, and enjoying our small redwood grove and fern garden.
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19 Responses to Forgiveness

  1. Val Boyko says:

    Beautifully put Russ! There is an energy that goes along with being “right” and “righteous” when we feel wronged. It feeds the ego but eats away at the soul. Its almost addictive, but when we see how it actually harms us we can let it go. Its more than a gift to ourselves its for necessary for our spiritual survival 🙂

  2. I like this post it is so true the power of forgiveness is often understated

  3. Mustang.Koji says:

    You are a much bigger man than I, sir.

    • russtowne says:

      Thank you for your kind comment, Koji. I must respectfully disagree. Through your blogs, comments, and posts, I have experienced a depth of compassion, kindness, understanding, wisdom, and love toward others that I believe are signs of high levels of greatness and goodness, all attributes that I greatly respect and admire. I’m proud to call you my friend.

  4. starrystez says:

    Wonderful perspective…one that I believe takes a lot of courage to see. Blessings to you.

  5. Thanks for the reminder. And one note is that we need to keep on forgiving to prevent that pity party creeping back.

  6. Ahmed says:

    Forgiveness is divine.

  7. So true! I found the book “Little Soul and the Sun” to be a great book to remind me that I need to forgive.

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