Downright Inconvenient

I just had a bit of a revelation. A man who recently learned of a life-threatening health condition for his dog was listening to “My Old Friend” while at work and experienced some emotions in a fairly open (not a lot of walls and privacy) environment. (For most men in the U.S.–being seen showing sentimentality or certain emotions is often a source of embarrassment. It is for me too. I believe that we’re culturally wired and conditioned to feel that way.)

I was pleased that the man trusted me enough to be able to share that experience with me. I said that as a songwriter, it is a wonderful compliment to hear that a song touched someone in such a deep way. I added that my emotions also show at times I sometimes wish they didn’t.

It was then that the revelation occurred:

Perhaps he and I (and folks like us) are the lucky ones. We feel our feelings so profoundly that they manifest in ways that we can’t hide even when we want to. I’d rather have to deal with such situations than be unfeeling or not in touch with my emotions.

Of course, the middle ground would very be nice too: Feeling deep feelings and being able to not let them show most of the time. I believe that most men–and probably a lot of women too (but I’m much less knowledgeable about the latter)–fall into this category.

There are times when it is downright inconvenient, and other things, to walk around blurry-eyed after be deeply touched by a beautiful scene, song, or other experience.

But all things considered, there is a part of me that is glad I do. I wouldn’t be who I am if I didn’t.


About russtowne

My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I manage a wealth management firm that I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of approximately 60 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children. In addition to my family, friends, investing, and writing, my passions include reading, watching classic movies, experiencing waves crashing on rocky shores, hiking in ancient redwood forests, and the beauty of kindness and nature.
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9 Responses to Downright Inconvenient

  1. Cathy Ulrich says:

    Yes, Russ, it can be inconvenient, but feelings are what make us human and divine! And, like you, I wouldn’t have it any other way!

  2. Rhonda says:

    When I see men, or anyone for that matter, show the invisible emotions…my respect meter goes up a notch or two.

  3. mindfuldiary says:

    I had the blurry eye experience with your song, “What kind of man does that”, though in a controlled environment of my own home. hahaa. That song is A.M.A.Z.I.N.G Share it, share it mr.Russ! ;D

  4. russtowne says:

    Thank you, my friend. I’m glad the song touched your heart.

  5. I think we live in a world that doesn’t celebrate enough the kind, the meek, the gentle and those who feel deeply and strongly. But now we can change that. Sharon

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