Focusing on the Relationship

One of the best decisions I’ve ever made was when I decided to focus on improving my relationships rather than trying to improve my wife, friends, partners, children, co-workers, and others.

When I focus on the relatiohsip I know that it is an investment in my and our future so I don’t feel resentment at the effort.

An added bonus is the other party often sees that I value the relationship with them enough to keep working to improve it. That mindset leads to a more positive atitude within myself and quite often within the other person.

If I were to focus on their behavior, comments, or attitude it would likely lead to resistence, denial and/or resentment on their part and mine.

I work on myself too, as I believe that is as important as focusing on the relationship. But it is when I stopped focusing on trying to fix others that my relatioship with them often dramatically improved.

I’ve heard it put another way: “When I’m judging someone I’m not loving them.”

May inner peace and lasting happiness be yours.

Russ

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About russtowne

My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 4 young grandsons. I manage a wealth management firm I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of 23 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children. In addition to my family, friends, investing, and writing, my passions include reading, watching classic movies, experiencing waves crashing on rocky shores, hiking in ancient redwood forests, and enjoying our small redwood grove and fern garden.
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