Our Imperfections Are What Make Us Unique.

A recent comment from “Mrs. P” reminded me about a decision My Beloved and I made  more than 38 years ago when we selected wedding rings for her. We intentionally selected two stones, a diamond and ruby (the latter being her birthstone) that had two small imperfections in them. The beautiful but imperfect gems were there to remind us that two imperfect people were joining together to create something beautiful.

Fast-forward six months: My Beloved’s cooking was so good that I gained 48 or 50 pounds (from a scrawny ~148 to a very un-scrawny 196 or 198.) Due to the dramatic weight gain I needed to have my wedding ring re-sized. When My Beloved returned it to me from the jewelers she had taken the liberty of having a two stones added to my band, a diamond and a ruby, with two minor imperfections in them.

Below is the comment from Mrs. P. that triggered my fond memories. I’m sharing it with her permission. Thank you, Mrs. P. I believe there is much wisdom in her words.

“I have come to believe…that our imperfections are what make us unique as individuals and a gauge in which we can measure the quality of our relationships. For example, my husband loves me with all of my imperfections. The opposite could hold true as well, you know the person who gets annoyed at your imperfections. You can sense it and it is not a fun place to be. I have worked hard to look beyond imperfections…that’s how I found my diamond in the rough! ;)”

With Love,



About russtowne

I'm awed by the beauty of nature and the power of love and gratitude. Some of my favorite sensory experiences include waves crashing on rocky shores, waterways in ancient redwood and fern-filled forests, and rain. My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 5 grandchildren. I manage a wealth management firm that I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of approximately 60 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children.
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14 Responses to Our Imperfections Are What Make Us Unique.

  1. ksbeth says:

    perfectly imperfect, russ –

  2. Awwwwww ❤ ❤ ❤ What a wonderful love story–actually two of them.

  3. Agreed. Find the “gold in the soul. ” I enjoyed this very much. Thanks for sharing!

  4. Russ, I adore this imperfect love that has proven it’s strength. 🙂 Thank you for sharing this story. I truly appreciate it.

  5. Spot on my friend spot on

  6. Mrs. P says:

    What an awesome story! Thanks for expounding on my thought! ❤

  7. utesmile says:

    That is so romantic and lovely!

    • russtowne says:

      Thank you, Ute. I agree; though there have been times the relationship had unromantic and unlovely moments, we’re happy and proud of what our hard work, stubbornness, err, dedication, and patience have produced.


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