A recent comment from “Mrs. P” reminded me about a decision My Beloved and I made more than 38 years ago when we selected wedding rings for her. We intentionally selected two stones, a diamond and ruby (the latter being her birthstone) that had two small imperfections in them. The beautiful but imperfect gems were there to remind us that two imperfect people were joining together to create something beautiful.
Fast-forward six months: My Beloved’s cooking was so good that I gained 48 or 50 pounds (from a scrawny ~148 to a very un-scrawny 196 or 198.) Due to the dramatic weight gain I needed to have my wedding ring re-sized. When My Beloved returned it to me from the jewelers she had taken the liberty of having a two stones added to my band, a diamond and a ruby, with two minor imperfections in them.
Below is the comment from Mrs. P. that triggered my fond memories. I’m sharing it with her permission. Thank you, Mrs. P. I believe there is much wisdom in her words.
“I have come to believe…that our imperfections are what make us unique as individuals and a gauge in which we can measure the quality of our relationships. For example, my husband loves me with all of my imperfections. The opposite could hold true as well, you know the person who gets annoyed at your imperfections. You can sense it and it is not a fun place to be. I have worked hard to look beyond imperfections…that’s how I found my diamond in the rough! ;)”