Mr. Rogers on Crying

Mr. Rogers could and would stand in the fire with people who were going through tough times. That’s a great kind of friend to have.

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With Love,
Russ

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About russtowne

My wife and I have been married since 1979. We have 3 adult children and 4 young grandsons. I manage a wealth management firm I founded in 2003. My Beloved is a Special Education teacher for Kindergartners and First Graders. I'm a published author of 23 books in a variety of genres for grownups and children. In addition to my family, friends, investing, and writing, my passions include reading, watching classic movies, experiencing waves crashing on rocky shores, hiking in ancient redwood forests, and enjoying our small redwood grove and fern garden.
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25 Responses to Mr. Rogers on Crying

  1. Crying is cathartic whether it is a man, woman, boy, girl…. Some are definitely uncomfortable and often parents mistakenly let their sons think they should never cry… Diane

  2. I love Mr. Rogers and his gentle buy powerful lessons.

  3. I just LOVE him so. One of the gentlest, gentlest souls to ever grace us.

    Thank you for this, Russ.

  4. I sometimes wonder if what we really mean by, “Don’t cry,” is I wish I could make it all better. The last time I said those words, that’s what I meant in my heart. ❤ Of course the words were wrong.

  5. icedmocha34 says:

    Mr. Rogers! I haven’t seen him since I was six!!!!!

  6. Mrs. P says:

    I love what he said about crying. I feel the same way too. Sharing a moment with someone who is crying shows they trust you and care for you enough to reveal their vulnerabilities to you…because they know you would never intentional hurt them for doing so.

  7. ksbeth says:

    everyone needs a friend like that

  8. willowdot21 says:

    I whole heartedly agree people really do not want to hear how you are,what you need. And especially they DO NOT want to cope with your emotions. What a great world this would be if we all just took the time to care.

    • russtowne says:

      I respectfully disagree, my friend. There are many kind, caring, and loving people in the world. Most have limits as to how much of another’s pain they can absorb before they need a break from it. I call it “sitting in the fire” with friends. Some people have a substantial tolerance for being able to do that. Other good people have a much lower threshold. Most people can only take so much pain, complaints, suffering, and/or negativity before they must get away for a while. If a person is nearly always negative, cynical, and complaining, few people can deal with that for long.
      Russ

      • willowdot21 says:

        I think what I meant got lost in the translation. I meant that the casual ” Hi how are you ” should not be answered at any great length. I know there are many good and caring people I would like to count myself as one. I am always happy to listen and try to help . But I do not think that many people like to listen for more than 5mins. I have a great line in ” Hi, fine , how are you ? “

        • russtowne says:

          Thank you for clarifying and your gracious reply. I agree, Willow. Most casual acquaintances don’t really want a long recital when they ask the pleasantry, “How are you?” That is what friends are for. The best friends can and will sit in the fire as long as it takes, and will at some point, attempt to help their friend move out of the fire and darkness into a place that doesn’t hurt so much.

          Russ

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