My Beloved was much more in tune with this wisdom since the beginning of our marriage 34 years go. It took me a long time and considerable effort and discomfort to evolve to it. Ultimately, we both found we needed to adjust expectations, and find the sweet spot between too much time together and too little. But when we found it and stay within it, it can be sweet indeed.
“But let there be spaces in your togetherness
and let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.”
~ Kahlil Gibran
I read an interesting article today on the Buddhist notion of love, and it’s really made me pause and re-evaluate my concept of what love is… and what it should be.
I must admit that in love, I can turn inwards, become insular, and all consumed. However I am coming to realise that love is really about helping one another to face outward, not merely inward.
“In the Buddhist tradition, there’s no “tying the knot.” There’s no two candles, two souls “becoming one.” Instead of facing one another, completing one another (Jerry Maguire) and living happily ever after (which only happens in fiction and even then they never show
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