My Beloved and I are nearing our 34th wedding anniversary, but many thought we’d never make it as a couple.
On the way home from our at-least-weekly Date Night sometime ago, I flashed back to the comments a good man said to my then-fiancé and me 35 years ago, when we were about 20 years old.
We’d asked him to be the official at our wedding ceremony. He agreed to do so if we’d take a compatibility questionnaire. He gave it to all couples for which he officiated. We weren’t fond of the idea but knew the man to be kind and if he thought it was a good idea and the information might be useful to us, then it probably would be.
So we each filled out a lengthy questionnaire and gave it to him. When the results came back, he ushered us into his office, sat us down, and in in a sad and solemn voice said something to the effect that based on our answers to the survey we were both very stubborn and selfish; so stubborn and selfish in fact that the odds of us remaining married to each other were very small.
He tried to talk us out of marrying each other, or to at least seriously considering whether marriage to each other was a good idea based on the survey’s findings.
We agreed that we were both stubborn and selfish and acknowledged how that could be a huge challenge to a happy marriage, but we were in love and wanted to get married anyway.
And so we did, for we knew something that he didn’t:
We were both too stubborn to ever give up on each other, and too selfish to ever let the love we had for each other slip away.
With Love,
Russ
Russ Towne's A Grateful Man 
I remember when Tim and I were engaged we had someone tell us that we wouldn’t last because he is an Aquarius and I am a Scorpio talk about what rot…………….
I’m glad that you listened to what your hearts were saying instead!
stubborn enough not to quit 🙂
Exactly.
There are some things that don’t show up on ‘tests’ or on ‘paper’…. things like ‘love’… Diane
So true.
Beautifully written!
Thank you for your kind comment!
It is ok when both are stubborn and I can see your fights are fun! 🙂
Making up was a lot more fun than the fights, but both involved fireworks. Now, we almost never fight, though we occasionally have (blessedly short) disagreements.
🙂
This is a beautiful Russ – and I especially love the last line. Long may you both be too stubborn and selfish..
Thank you, Mimi. Some things never change! ;-D!