“The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twistThoth to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.”. — Thomas Merton
I got married when I was only 21. My Beloved was only 20. I wish someone had spoken the wise words above to us at least once per month until we believed and followed them. Somehow–perhaps only after we had tried everything else–we came to the same conclusion as Mr. Merton. We could have saved ourselves a lot of aggravation and frustration if we had learned the wisdom of those words much earlier in our marriage.
But I’m grateful that we at at least eventually got to that place in our marriage.
Russ
Russ Towne's A Grateful Man 
a wise person once told me, you can’t fix them. You can only fix yourself.
So true.
Russ
Happy to hear that you did get there in the end, sometimes it takes time, as we are as young people thinking differently and try to sometimes change other people and do not think of ourselves.
That was certainly true in my case! Thank you for taking the time to comment.
Russ
your blog is very inspiring see here http://utesmile.wordpress.com/2012/12/16/thank-you-summer/
It sometimes takes a while to learn but as you say it’s so much better when you do….Diane