“Friendship isn’t about who you’ve known the longest. It’s about who came and stayed by you side when you needed them most.”
–Unknown (at least to me)
Like everyone, there have been times in my life when I needed a friend. Once, in my late teens and early twenties, no one came and stayed by me when I needed them most. People I thought were my friends were too busy to visit me in the hospital when my lungs were broken or in my home when my heart got broken at about the same time by a fiance’ who decided she loved someone more. I learned a painful and important lesson from those experiences.
I became a better person and a better friend. Years later, when my daughter was fighting for her life in intensive care for weeks and I needed a friend. One was there and heped me to to get through everything.
I like the second situation a whole lot better.
I was lucky that I’ve had multiple experiences to find who my true friends were and who were merely card-playing fair-weather buddies. That allowed me to make adjustments to myself that led to attracting true and loving friends and a soul mate partner/wife into my life.
So, I’m grateful for those excruicately painful, awful, terrible times, and hope they never happen to me or any of my loved ones again. But when the inevitable storms come, I–and they–will be ready, and stand by each other’s side until the storms pass and the sun shines again.